As you know, sometimes we say
things without thinking. And sometimes we’re
just too tired to think about what we really want to say. And then there are those times when we just find
it easier to get rid of people with “cheap” talk than real talk.
Here are four words/phrases that we
all use on a daily basis. We usually
toss out these phrases when we don’t have time for a real answer or when we
don’t want to give a real answer! These
are four words/phrases that potentially can confuse your partner if used
regularly while planning your wedding.
"Try" is a “nice” word meant to give the other person
some hope that they’ll get what they need.
I’m guilty of over-using this word, as I have this (annoying) habit of
not wanting to disappoint people in the here and now. I attempt to buy time with “try” in the hope
that I’ll be able to help them. More
times than not, my “trying” doesn’t work out.
Tell your partner exactly what you’re going to do when you “try” to
do what they’ve asked of you. Let them
know what your “trying” really involves.
"I'll get back to you" is said when you need to buy time
and you want to get rid of the other person because you don’t want to have to
deal with them right now. How often do
people get back to you when they say, “I’ll bet back to you”?
Tell your partner specifically when you’ll get back to them and
then make sure you do, even if you don’t have what they need.
"I guess . . ." is mumbled when you only partially agree
with the other person and for whatever reason you don’t want to continue the
discussion or argument. Your body
language and tone of voice always gives you away! Even if the person accepts your begrudging “I
guess,” they’ll walk away thinking you have attitude.
Tell your partner what you agree with and what you don’t agree
with, IF it is vital for your plans.
"We'll see . . . “ is a fav phrase of our parents. It was
their “nice” way of saying no. Recently
my ten-year old godson, Finn, asked if we could go to Target and get a
Skylander toy. I said, “we’ll see.” Puzzled, he asked “What will we see?” He pressed on, “will we see or will you
see?”
Tell your partner why you’re hesitant to give a firm answer; let
them know what your doubts and concerns are.
And, yes, I did “see” and I surrendered.
. .I took Finn to Target!
Avoid these four phrases and you’ll reduce confusion between you and
your partner and so reduce stress.
