Earlier this week I officiated a
wedding for an out-of-town gay couple that had decided to combine their wedding
and honeymoon. They invited just ten
relatives and friends. The ceremony was
held in their hotel suite that had a breath-taking view of LA. When I arrived, Frank clasped my hand and
said, “I’m so nervous, I don’t know if I can say my vows.” I reminded him that there would only be ten
people, to which he nervously responded, “that’s
a lot!”
The point is, it doesn’t matter if
you’ve invited ten people or twenty times ten people. It doesn’t matter if you’re straight or
gay. A wedding is an out-of-body
experience! And while I “get” why people
are nervous, at the risk of sounding obnoxious, I have to ask: “But why are you nervous? What are you telling yourself that makes you
scared?”
I know this is a heretical
statement – BUT – your wedding day is not “the” most important day of your
life. Your life together is a series of
most important days. I think your
wedding day is “the” day that can be a touchstone for all those other “most
important days”.
With that in mind, here are ten
things to keep in mind while preparing for your wedding vows.
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