This post is a bit different from
my others as it’s inspired by conversations I overheard at my fav café on two
different days. . .
The other day I was sitting at my
local, fav café, Aroma, when I overheard a young woman (20’s) at the next table
whine, “I tried on my grandma’s wedding dress and it was pretty, but
old-fashioned so I’m not gonna wear it.”
Okay, so you’re not “gonna” wear it
BUT that doesn’t mean you can’t still incorporate the dress somehow.
This is where creativity comes in –
with how you incorporate family tradition + heirlooms in fresh, contemporary
ways.
I’m not going to turn this into a
DIY blog BUT I once had a bride who didn’t want to wear her grandmother’s dress
BUT who loved her grandmother very much.
Her grandmother let her use the dress for part of the canopy of the
Huppa the bride made.
It was beyond beautiful!
Even if you are stressing the small
stuff (which you shouldn’t!), PLEASE enjoy the fun of being creative and
inventive – not for the sake of wowing guests BUT for the sake of honoring
cherished traditions and heirlooms – honoring family.
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So, I was back at my fav café,
Aroma, and this time I was sitting next to a guy talking about how family
politics is driving him batty as he and his fiancée come closer to their
wedding day.
Apparently, his mother doesn’t talk
to his aunt, with whom he’s close, and the sisters haven’t talked for over a
decade. His mother doesn’t want to be in
any family photos with her sister BUT he thinks it would be nice for the entire
family to have a portrait taken on his wedding day. His two friends then chimed in with tales of
their parents’ dysfunctional family relationships.
So, there you have it – family
politics is all part of a wedding – and my experience has been that very few
couples manage to get married without family wackiness tripping them up.
But, here’s the thing – when I
officiate a ceremony, I look out at the people gathered AND what I see is a
bunch of people wanting to believe that despite ALL the divorce and messiness
of families, there’s hope that these two people will get “it” right.
That’s why I say that your wedding
is a
Big
Bold
Brash
Statement of HOPE
BECAUSE
No one knows what the future holds
BUT
Everyone hopes
That the two of you
WILL
be faithful to:
The dream of becoming who you want
to be as a couple
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