Flip through
any wedding magazine and most likely you’ll come across an article with a title
such as: “8 Nitty-Gritty Must-Have
Conversations Before You Walk Down the Aisle.”
The article
will challenge you to reflect on the conversational health of your relationship
with a list of questions such as:
·
How do we feel about having kids?
·
How will we handle our money?
·
Who cleans the toilet?
·
What about the in-laws?
·
What don’t we agree on?
·
How do we keep the sparks flying?
·
What’s our arguing style?
·
How will we balance work and
play?
These are
essential questions and my hope is that a couple has answered these questions
before coming to discuss the ceremony with me. If they haven’t, then I offer
communication coaching that helps a couple hone their skills.
The novelist
Andre Malroux claimed that, “A happy
marriage is a long conversation that always seems too short.” I like that!
So then the question is: what do you
talk about?
Well, here’s a list I put together of 25
“non-nitty gritty” questions that are fun, silly, intriguing and revealing. In some
respects, these questions are just as important as the “serious” questions I
posed above.
How many of these questions have you asked
each other?
How many answers do you know?
Happy talking!
1. What has been one of the most memorable
experiences in your life?
2. What is an experience that challenged
you but ultimately made you a better person?
3. How have you touched another person’s
life (for the good)?
4. What do you think is the weirdest thing
about life in general?
5. What is one way in which you’re mean to
your self?
6. What is the best compliment you’ve ever
received?
7. What is the best compliment you’ve ever
given?
8. What is the worst insult you’ve ever
received?
9. What is the worst insult you’ve ever
given?
10. What is the best text you ever got? The worst?
11. What is the most beautiful thing you’ve
ever seen?
12. What are five things you’re grateful for?
13. What was your favorite childhood toy?
14. What was your favorite childhood game?
15. What was the best movie you ever saw as a
kid?
16. How are you different today from when you
were in 5th grade?
17. What is the biggest mistake you ever
made?
18. What is the failure you’re most proud of
– because of what you learned from it?
19. What would you do if you knew you
wouldn’t fail?
20. What are five silly things you’d like to
try at least once?
21. What are your five favorite words and
why?
22. What is one thing you don’t understand
about yourself?
23. What are you most self-conscious about?
24. Who or what do you find intimidating?
25. Who is the smartest person you know and
why are they so smart?
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