true story (names changed)
I spoke with Miriam three days
before her wedding; she was in tears from stress. It was a garden ceremony and
she was tying purple ribbons around one hundred and fifty hand fans, which
would also serve as programs.
When I asked why she was adding the
ribbons, she explained that the purple would match her bridesmaids’ dresses and
it was the main color theme. I gently pointed out that only a handful of men
might notice the purple ribbons so she could cut the ribbons by half. She
laughed. When I said that I wasn’t kidding, she looked annoyed and then said
what I fear most for a bride: “but I want everything to be perfect.”
Here is the first crazy-making lie
that couples play in their heads:
everything must be PERFECT in order
for it to be good.
Trust me, five years after your
wedding few if any will remember the purple ribbons. Now when I ran this by
several women friends, each told me that no bride wants to hear what I just
wrote. So why am I ignoring the advice of trusted friends?
Well, I asked Miriam if she had any
friends who could help her tie the ribbons. She said she didn’t want to bother
anyone. And besides, she wanted to make sure the ribbons were done right. Stop!
Devotion to perfection is the downfall of every bride.
Sanity Saver Questions:
• Do
you and your fiancé have the same idea of “perfection?”
•
What is the price you’re willing to pay for perfection?
• Do
you know just how much a price you’re going to pay for “perfection”?
Remember: your wedding day is bigger than ribbons—and ring pillows
and place cards and running make-up!
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