Last summer a couple hired me for
their wedding that took place last month.
We had a great first meeting—they wanted a ceremony that honored them as
a couple and that included certain cultural traditions. Because they booked me so far out, I
suggested we get together again after the holidays, in mid-January. I left it up to the couple to contact me,
though I assured them that I’m available at any time.
Well, the couple emailed me just
two weeks before their wedding and they didn’t have time to meet in
person. The bride explained that she’d
been so busy with other preparations that she “totally” forgot about the
ceremony.
Sadly, they weren’t able to have
any of the personal elements they’d wanted—not even their own vows––because
they’d run out of time. They were too
busy with last minute details to worry about the ceremony.
As a wedding officiant I’m biased,
as I happen to believe the ceremony is the heart and soul of your
celebration. I felt for this bride who
was so obsessed with creating her dream wedding that she neglected the
ceremony.
I’m surprised at the number of
couples who talk about their “dream” reception, “dream honeymoon,” BUT have no
idea what their “dream” ceremony looks like.
I do think you can have a great
reception even if you have a dreadful ceremony.
However, if you have a great ceremony, it propels your guests into the
party and reminds them of what it is they’re celebrating.
So, are you able to say what your
dream ceremony looks like?
