Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Texting Is Not Communicating!
“Is there anything you know you do want or anything you know you don’t want in your wedding ceremony?” is one of the first questions I ask a couple. When I recently asked this question, the bride smiled (sort of) and said:
“we were supposed to talk about this stuff on the ride over here but he (the groom) was too busy taking calls from work—so, we don’t know what we want.”
She actually seemed more resigned than angry. After all, that’s what life is like for all of us these days.
Blackberries. Trios. Text messages. I.M. Email. Voice mail. We do business and live our lives in a swirl of information. Yet, how often are we actually communicating, listening?
It’s been said that
listening is the greatest act of love.
If so, then the greatest thing you can do for each other, while planning your wedding (and beyond), is to listen to each other.
And how you listen to each other now is a sure indication of how you will listen to each other the week after your wedding.
Do you listen to each other?
or, better. . .
Do you feel that your partner listens to you? Really listens?
The Chinese characters for “listen” are:
Think about it. Isn’t it true that when you really listen to someone, you are not just “hearing” them? You are focused on them—on their face—on their body movement—and on what they don’t say.
So, how good a listener are you?