How To Stay Sane While Planning for Your Wedding!

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Why Do Brides Not Want To Cry?

Recently, I officiated two very different elopements in the same week.  One couple came from Europe and rented a house in the desert for their getaway.  The other couple lived back East and decided to get married while out here on business.  Each couple was at a point in their life together that they didn’t want to deal with the hassle and politics of a big wedding––“big” meaning anything more than two people!

There is something to be said for the intimacy of an elopement.  The ceremony itself takes on a more relaxed, informal tone and I’m able to speak more conversationally with the couple.

What surprised me, though, is that each bride made it a point to say to me, “Don’t make me cry.  I don’t want to cry!”  Hmm. . .I always tell couples that I’m not cheesy, corny, nor do I do stand-up in a ceremony.  However, I am a die-hard romantic and I do go for the jugular, as it were!

I realize that I’ll never experience or understand a wedding from the perspective of a bride; however, I was surprised by each of these since the only people at their respective ceremonies were the photographer and I, so what difference did it make if the bride did cry?

I’m amazed by how many brides tell me that they don’t want to cry––and some of these brides seem to go through great emotional lengths to not cry.

Why do you not want to cry?  Yes, I know, the whole make-up “thing;” but make-up can be reapplied, yes?

A wedding is a wonderfully emotional experience.  There really is nothing else like it.  Why worry about whether you’re going to cry or not?  Rather than saying, “I don’t want to cry” I encourage you to say, “I want to feel it all.”  Enjoy the roller-coaster ride.  Throw your hands up in the hand and scream with delight.  No one is going to judge you.  The photos will look mighty fine.  And you’ll have the time of your life.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

This made me feel good. I'm about to get married and as the bride I do keep chocking back my emotions. I need to just relax and enjoy. If I cry so what. Thank you