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I came across a posting on The Atlantic Magazine website titled: What Kinds of Happy Couples Eventually Get Divorced?
I think this is the first time the word “divorce” has appeared on my blog, as it’s a phenomenon I don’t want to have to think about!
However, as a communications coach, I was interested in the answer to that question:
In a new study, the researchers followed 136 married couples who all reported being very satisfied in the first four years of their marriages. They questioned each spouse periodically over a period of 10 years, asking them to rate statements about marriage satisfaction, level of commitment, personality traits, stress levels, problem solving abilities, and how supportive they were with their partners. Some skills and traits were rated by the researchers, as the couples discussed relationship difficulties in the lab.
Couples who went on to divorce were more likely to be poorer communicators, and tended to display more negative emotions and support mechanisms than people who stayed married.
When it comes to weddings, I haven’t seen it all, but I have seen a lot. And when it comes to couples, well, I’ve seen more than enough to be certain of two things:
1. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the communication in your life.
2. How you communicate with each other in the planning of your wedding is a sure indicator of how you’re going to communicate after your wedding.
So the question is:
are you happy with the way you and your partner communicate? Is there some aspect(s) of how you communicate that you want to replace with a more effective and less stressful way of communicating?
If so, let’s talk and see how I might be able to assist you.
